Category: Caribbean Woman Created on Wednesday, 11 July 2012 06:11
Women worry about a lot of things. One of the things we worry about is the status of our relationship. As in every other matter, worrying is a waste of time. One woman shared how she got into an argument with her boyfriend because he refused to change his Facebook status to, “in a relationship.” This tells me she doesn’t trust her man, is insecure, might be carrying some baggage, codependent, and definitely not ready for a relationship. When relationships lack trust, they never evolve and grow. If this is cause for an argument, space is required to assess whether or not we’re equipped to deal with the responsibilities of a mature relationship.
Honestly, the world of Facebook doesn’t need to know the intimate details of our life. Folks in the land of Facebook don’t need to know who we’re dating, if we’re in a relationship, or how complicated it might be. In addition, the only change that needs to be made is a change from “single” to “married.” Anything between is unnecessary.
The problem with today’s world is that everything is aired, and everyone gets the same treatment. At the end of the day, nothing is intimate and special. Most importantly, nothing is private. Privacy allows relationships to grow at their own pace, and privacy allows couples to enjoy their relationship without a lot of outside influence. Quite frankly, relationships are more likely to fail, if too many people are involved.
Just because the person we’re seeing doesn’t feel like making his relationship a Facebook topic of interest, doesn’t mean we’re not in a relationship. This doesn’t mean that our relationship is unimportant, that he’s hiding, that he has ulterior motives, or that this somehow affects the quality of our relationship.
Ladies, as long as close friends and family are aware of our presence, the issue of Facebook updates should be non-existent. This shouldn’t be a problem in any relationship because it’s a trivial matter. If it is a problem, it’s a sign of misplaced priorities. What should take priority is what’s going on in reality, not the virtual world of Facebook. If all else fails take up Lady Saw’s anthem, “Whatever…, man a di least a me prablem…” It just might get rid of that funky mood.
Editor-in-Chief’s Note: Ebonie Jones is an Editorial Contributor with MNI Alive.
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